they don’t know

“There are just a few moments in my life when I’m with someone, see the rest of my days with them, and am so excited about it that I want it to start as soon as possible.”

I was talking to one of my oldest dearest friends and this was something that he had said, and something that I had understood immediately.

“Yeah, it’s amazing how scared people get of the long term relationship, people who have never seen the benefits and how good it can be”, I’d said.

We’ve both been there before.  He just got out of a 16 year relationship and similar to myself, although he was the one to end things, he was still heartbroken over it.  He had given it many chances over the course of many years, and it was when things consistently didn’t get better that he’d ended things.  For me, I gave it less of a chance, I’d ended things quickly, had regretted it, and then when the other party reacted very poorly, regretted it less.

For the few that I’d thought I had a future with and it didn’t work out as “the one” but worked out as friends, I’m grateful.  Grateful to have the chance to see them be happy with other people who are much better for them than I ever could have been, grateful that they are still a part of my life, and grateful that they were willing to slosh through the really bad times to trust that it would get better sooner or later.  Thanks guys.  I’m so glad that we had it in us to make it through and so happy that our friendship superceeded everything else, that warms my heart the most.