A Friendly Warning

KB told me about her breakup.  “He’s a momma’s boy!”, she’d semi shouted.

Ah yes.  The momma’s boy.  He’s the one that seems respectful to women, will talk about his mom more than once per conversation, and lacks the will to say no to any request reasonable or not that his mother asks or even worse, doesn’t ask of him.

In the beginning, it will seem sweet until the girl realizes that until the day the mother kicks the bucket, and likely for years after that, mom will always come first.

KB continued.  “Oh dear god, I should have known that it was doomed to failure when he confessed that he was still living at home”.  To be clear, the guy she was talking about was not 12, 18, or 21.  He was, at the time, in his 40s.  And he isn’t Asian (it’s totally acceptable for children to live with parents until they marry, and then for the parents to move in with the children).

Now this made me think.  Is this a “new” phenomenon?   Did momma’s boys exist in my mom’s generation?  (Come to think of it, my dad is probably a bit of a momma’s boy himself.)  How can women raise their boys to be men as they get older, and is it even possible?

I wondered about all of this as KB and I hung up.  She’d warned me well.  Stay away from momma’s boys.